Tag: Mental Health

The Real Test of Love Isn’t a Crisis. It’s Good News.

Performative care is when someone shows up brilliantly for your emergencies and disappears from your ordinary life. They arrive for the breakup, the diagnosis, the redundancy, and then go quiet for months once the crisis passes. It looks like love because it involves effort and presence at a dramatic moment. It usually is not.… Read the rest “The Real Test of Love Isn’t a Crisis. It’s Good News.”

I Stopped Being a ‘Low-Maintenance’ Friend and Nearly Lost My Best Friend Over a Heart Emoji

A reply six days late, a heart emoji, and the two-month experiment that cured me of being everyone’s low-maintenance friend.

Last Thursday, I finally answered a text that had been sitting in my inbox for six days.

It was from Jess. A decade ago, I’d have called her my closest friend without needing to think about it.… Read the rest “I Stopped Being a ‘Low-Maintenance’ Friend and Nearly Lost My Best Friend Over a Heart Emoji”

The Borrowed Brain

Quick map: this is the long-form essay. There’s a tighter Medium version, a 9-minute video, and a 60-second cut. Read first. The AI-Resistance Self-Assessment link is at the end.

On outsourcing grief, the seven-second window, and what I learned the hard way when I stopped

I want to write about something I have been avoiding writing about for a while, because I am still inside the embarrassment of it.… Read the rest “The Borrowed Brain”